Wouldyou describe yourself as a happy person? It seems that most people desire to behappy, but they have difficulty in being happy and cannot seem to findhappiness in their lives. Moreover, they do not even know what makes them happyor what are the essentials they need for happiness. Ask yourself: do you knowwhat makes you feel happy? Being successful, staring into someone’s eyes,solving a problem… Which of these can make you feel good? These are someexamples of things that make people feel happy. As a result of the uniquenessof each individual, they all diverse. Even though this non-objective andabstract nature of happiness makes it difficult to be depicted, sincehappiness, like water or air, is a hard thing to grasp in one’s hand, there arestill some universal basic requirements all people need to live happily.
Amongthem, two of them are very important and should be mentioned. Two mostessential requirements to lead a happy life are self-knowledge and worthygoals.Oneof the essential requirements to lead a happy life is self-knowledge. To beginwith, self-knowledge determines where people go in life. Because without theinformation which comes from the self-reflection, it is impossible for peopleto learn who they are.
It is unlikely to find happiness in their lives sincepeople cannot know their potentials or abilities in such a case. And, such anignorance is an obstacle to reach happiness. Apart from information about personality,self-knowledge also serves information about what people need which isnecessary to be happy since happiness is something that people need to striveto get. It can be said that happiness is a butterfly which always escapes. Tocatch it, a hunter must do something and above all, the hunter must know whereit is. Without this knowledge, the hunter cannot even draw near to it.Likewise, without self-knowledge, people cannot even approach to happinesssince they do not know where it is.
To be happy, there must be some targets andpeople must do something to achieve them. Lack of self-knowledge leaves peopleopen to accident and mistaken ambitions. Secondly, self-knowledge allows peopleto take control of thoughts, emotions, and personality.
Self-reflection givesan opportunity to see where people’s thoughts and emotions are taking them.That is, it can be used to uncover any destructive thought-patterns. Imagine ifsomeone’s thoughts were positive – h/she would feel happy most of the time! Onthe reverse side, negative thoughts release enzymes that attack his/her immunesystem and certainly don’t help his/her mood.
People are happy when theysubjectively believe themselves to be happy. Thoughts become acts, acts becomehabits, habits express the character and the character becomes the destiny.Here, another important effect of self-knowledge should be mentioned: itregulates habits. And habits are also very important. Therefore, it is safe tosay that the way which goes to a happy life starts from inside of people.
Inaddition to self-knowledge, worthy goals are also necessary for a happy life.First, they make people feel better when people achieve them. This one is thedirect and obvious effect of worthy goals. This is a scientific truth:achieving a goal stimulates dopamine receptors on the human brain and thatbrings a sense of accomplishment which ultimately cause happiness. And thisalso brings a sense of satisfaction which is regarded as the ultimate purposeof life by many philosophers. It is clear that satisfaction is a motive thatkeeps us alive. But setting goals is even more useful.
In other words, thereare also some indirect beneficial results of it. Second important effect ofsetting worthy goals is that it leads more productive life. And more productivelife means more happy life because of the fact that humans are the animals thatare happy to produce something. Since it motivates people, they can do theirbests so that they can get success which means happiness. It seems that withoutenough motivation, nothing can be done.
And setting goals are also importantsince it causes more organized life by reshaping people’s life. To achieve somegoals, people can make some sacrifices. For example, many students do not domany things which they want to do while preparing for the university entranceexam. This is because of their long-term goal. That makes their life moreorganized, therefore, makes them happier. Nobody can attain happiness whileliving a non-organized life.
Thus, worthy goals are key to happiness sincehuman beings are designed to set and achieve goals and to enjoy the paths thosegoals lead they on.Inconclusion, it is possible to think the way of life that goes to a happy lifeas a bumpy road. There are many obstacles to deal with to reach happiness.
Peopleshould know abilities of their cars to complete this journey. And the driver ofthe car should aim at the end of the road. Without targets, the driver would belost and cannot reach the end of the road which means ultimate happiness.Likewise, to live happy lives, first of all, people should have clear goals andknow themselves. In brief, self-knowledge and worthy goals are vital things tolive a happy life.