The attachment theoryObservations by John Bowlby in 1940 at the Tavistock Clinic showed that the children’s basic needs were a linking object at the beginning, that the attachment had reacted in three different ways in the absence of the attachment, and that these reactions persisted in adulthood as well as in the theory.this theory tries to explain how associations begin, why they do not go on, why they affect people in their choice of partner.
what is important is the methodological content of the infant care period.If the maintenance process is inconsistent, the baby will not be able to develop confidence in the outside world, and he will not believe that he is a loved enough creature. in adulthood, it is more likely that this person is insecure in relation to both himself and his partner in emotional relationships. he or she can never believe that a partner or anybody can love himself enough, and these trust problems can sometimes be seen as excessive jealousy of his wife.
some people looked at by inconsistent maintenance methods want to integrate with the wife and go inside, which is not very different from the reaction of the child who sticks to her to stay away from her mother who is not sure when to give the right response. the coherence of the methodological schemas in the minds of these persons is uncomfortable to them. from time to time we may have problems such as fighting/ jealousy/tension that we have stopped in relation to each other by blurring the stagnant water.If the care process is consistent, the idea will develop into an idea that baby needs are important, and this idea will soon turn into self-confidence. the idea that it is a good place sensitive to the needs of the outside world will build trust in others. it is expected that this person’s emotional connection in adulthood is relatively free from the balanced and trust-based, psychologically problematic dynamics.