HOW TO MANAGE LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIPSOnce upon a time in God-knows-where, a person has rightly said, “If you want to live together, you mustknow how to live apart”.
Wise and intellectual words, I must say.But it is not so easy for a madly in love couple to be separated by miles. The feeling of togetherness,holding hands under the table, sipping the same coffee together, kissing under mistletoe and cuddling inthe bed are not part of their routine. This often leads to unwanted advice from friends and family thatthe relationship might not work out.Ouch!But what if it can? What if the base of a long distance relationship depends upon the way you approachit?Here are some expert tips on what you should be doing to make sure your long distance relationshipwith your partner does not go down the drain.1. Positivity is the key to kisses!If you have people constantly feeding you things like ‘This won’t work’, ‘you are wasting yourtime’, ‘this is meant to be broken’ and on and on and on…..
Avoid them, as soon as possible!Positivity is the first step to maintain a romantic relationship between two individuals. If you staypositive, you speak and behave positively with your partner. This would create a healthyatmosphere between you and bickering can be avoided. Your partner would be able to see howmuch you love him and nothing else would bother you much.
Having negative thoughts seep intoyour head is a dangerous infection. Wash those thoughts away with a disinfectant immediately! 2. Creative CommunicationDon’t we all want to do something new every morning we wake up? That is what a relationshipexpects too.
Don’t make your conversation seem like a dragged version of daily soaps. Keep itsimple yet creative. Make sure you do not speak about the same topic for so long that yourpartner feels you have nothing else to speak about. This would create an impression that thebond between you is slowly weakening. Keeping the conversations to its creative best wouldmaintain the magic of your togetherness. Some ‘dirty talk’ in between is very healthy! Keep theother person entertained and give them an insight about what is happening in your life. Sendthem few post cards or hand written letters in between, keeping the usual chatting andmessaging to the side. They will have something real and hard to hold on to in your absence.
3. Space, Please!It is obvious that you won’t know everything about what’s happening in your partner’s life whileyou stay miles apart from them. However, this should not be a reason for you to pester themconstantly with ‘what’s up?’ and ‘What’s happening?’ They might not be in a mood to tell youeverything or worse, think that you do not trust them anymore! Give them some space and letthem speak at their own pace. If they want to tell you, they will. Don’t message them hundredtimes in a day just to see how your messenger is working! That tring-tring sound of the phone canirritate few people. Keep it limited. Not too much and not too low.
4. Surprise Visits!Imagine what your partner’s reaction would be to see you on their porch as soon as they wakeup? A hug and a lingering kiss is a definite! Surprise visits to you partner can help reduce the painof staying apart. It would give you time to spend with each other despite your busy schedules.Once or twice, it is important that your partner does not forget the fact that you are real and notany figment of their imagination. Plan a romantic date or a good picnic outing with them.5. Honesty is the best policyIt is a very, very old saying but still applicable today.
When your partner is not with you to knowwhat keeps running in your mind and heart, it becomes your responsibility to be honest withwhat you tell them. Honesty is the main tool which helps in creating a zone of comfort betweenyou people. It helps your partner feel secure about his or her stance in your life. Be it about yourfriends, family, feelings or something as simple as your pet, try to be very honest with them. Theyshouldn’t get the impression that you are hiding something.Nothing is impossible if the person you love is the person you are with.
Distance is a futile thingbefore the binding of hearts. If you will to have him with you, even distance would fear to keepyou apart. Have a clear head about what you expect from your relationship and keep things asuncomplicated as possible. Give them love and shower them with affection. Even if they werelocked in a dungeon in some abandaned part pf antartica, your love would prevail above all.All the best and lots of love!